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Five Welcoming Resources for Life after Infertility. (Yes, there is life after infertility!)

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When you are in the thick of infertility it can be hard to imagine walking away from trying mode.

Trying to conceive feels like movement towards a goal, something to focus on that is perhaps more pleasant than being angry at your body for not working as you assumed it would. It turns out that more people that you would expect walk away from infertility treatment without a birth of a child. This is not advertised on the brochure, let me tell you. It certainly doesn’t show up in movies or books this way either.

When you are pondering what life may be like after infertility, or if you have already embraced this shift, here are some resources that may feel like coming home, where people ‘get you’ in a way that you haven’t felt in a long time. Each has its own flavor and feel, try them out and see what’s right for you!

  1. Gateway Women- The global friendship and support network for childless women. “Whether you're childless due to infertility or circumstance you're in the right place. Pull up a chair. Get a cup of tea or something stronger and make yourself comfortable. Things are just about to get a whole lot easier.” This website is full of great resources and the Gateway Women online community site is lovely too.

  2. Chasing Creation- “My aim is to fill these pages with stories, resources, research, and insight that will do the same for you. On Chasing Creation, you’ll find posts about:

    • Recognizing and working through grief.

    • Processing the aftermath of infertility.

    • Designing a childfree life.

    • Redefining your identity.

    • Strengthening your relationships.

    • My favorite books and resources.”

  3. Clan of Brothers- “A group to give childless not by choice (CNBC) males a safe place to find support and encouragement from their brothers around the globe. Please note this group is for males only and is not for anyone who has had a child (biological, adopted) or still trying to conceive.”

  4. Childless by Marriage- “In a society where most people have kids, some of us don't because our partners are unable or unwilling to make babies. That's what this blog and my book, Childless by Marriage, are about. Let's talk about what it's really like.”

  5. Savvy Auntie- “SavvyAuntie.com is the first and only community for Aunts: Aunties by Relation (ABR), Aunties by Choice (ABC), Great-Aunts, Godmothers, and all women who love kids. SavvyAuntie.com enables and empowers Aunts to exchange ideas, get advice, find gifts and connect with other Savvy Aunties.”

The Invisible String

Sometimes you find a book that's a true "keeper!"  I love The Invisible String by Patrice Karst for its relevance to so many ages and life challenges.  I know many families face separation anxiety and grief/loss and would benefit from this metaphor of an invisible string attaching loved ones no matter distance or time. The story is simple enough for very small children, and relatable enough for all ages.  I use this in session with clients and families and often incorporate a memorable activity to drive home the message.  This book is listed on my Resources page- check it out to see what else I use recommend and use often.